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Betty Ford: Truth was No Stranger

by Ramona 7/9/2011 - 1:58 pm   |

Until last night, when I heard that she had passed, I didn't realize how much I admired Betty Ford.  Truth said, my first thought was "I thought she had died long ago."  I do that a lot lately.  Betty lived to be 93 years old and hadn't been seen in public for several years.  That's the only way I keep in touch with public figures -- by seeing them in public.  So when public figures I admire or enjoy are gone from view they're gone from thought, and when they pass, only then do I see it as moments lost.  I should have been paying attention.

It took her passing to bring Betty back.  I don't have to watch the tributes or re-live the highlights and lowlights of her life to understand why her life had meaning to me.  I know why.  She was honest in a caring way and caring in an honest way.  She was a career politician's wife living in D.C among Republicans, yet she was pro-choice, pro ERA, pro disenfranchised; a true non-partisan activist. I, an avowed liberal even then, followed her as if I were an acolyte sitting at her knee.

(Ellie Smeal, former president of Now, said this about her today:  "When the 1980 National Republican Convention in Detroit was deciding whether or not to keep the ERA in its platform (up until then it had been in its platform for several decades), Betty left the convention and together with the Republican first lady of Michigan, Helen Milliken, joined the National Organization for Women's protest march. I was the president of NOW at the time, and Betty and Helen were on either side of me as we marched with some 12,000 people through the streets of Detroit and wound past the convention center shouting, 'Keep the ERA in the platform.'")

When she was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1974 and underwent a mastectomy, the normal action for the times would have been either to try and hide it or to simply call it a "malignancy" and let it go at that.  Betty Ford chose to call it what it was:  breast cancer.

At a time when people still had a hard time using the word "cancer" and an even harder time with the cringy word "breast", she used them both to draw attention to a scourge facing women in growing, alarming numbers.  And she survived.

Betty was uncomfortable with public speaking.  It was always a knuckle-biter for me whenever she began to talk in that measured quaver of a voice, her lower jaw moving uncontrollably as she struggled to get the words out.  But what came out was a refreshing assemblage of truth. She might have been living an Elizabethan life but she was just Betty to the women who took courage from her.

She went quiet when she gave in to pain killers and alcohol, but when her family performed an intervention, the details went public and Betty began to talk again.  This time the subject was alcoholism and with painful honesty Betty brought the hidden truth out into the open and we all began to talk about it.  Honestly.

She didn't let the issue die, easy as it might have been to pretend it didn't happen.  Instead she kept the problem alive by founding and heading The Betty Ford Center for Substance Abuse and Addiction and built it into a model for humane, caring addiction treatment.

She was some gal.  I wish she were around right now.  I can think of a few public women who could use a dose of her honesty.

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I had forgotten Betty Ford's role in broadening the public's awareness of, and discussions of, breast cancer.  Great reminder from you.  Today I saw a pink concrete mixer in Tucson.  It is pink for breast cancer awareness.  Very glad Betty Ford survived into a very old age, and that she helped create a world filled with awareness of that illness, and also substance abuse.  She was unfairly the butt of jokes in the seventies about substance abuse.  That's long gone, but her dignity goes on.  (And her husband had a ton of that too, IMO.)

by Articleman 7/9/2011 - 6:45 pm

The pink ribbons and signs (and now concrete mixers!) are a great way to remind us about breast cancer, and I really do think that kind of awareness has actually saved lives.  There was a time when a diagnosis of breast cancer meant sure death, and now, with mammograms and early detection, the odds are good that it's curable.

Betty Ford helped bring that awareness into our everyday lives by the simple act of announcing her own diagnosis.  It helped, too, of course, that she survived and gave women hope.  They stopped being afraid of the diagnosis and went in for screening. 

Of course, the insurance companies fought having to pay for mammograms, but with enough pressure brought on them, they began to see the light.  The "Pink" campaign helped to do that.

 

by Ramona 7/10/2011 - 8:30 am (re: Articleman)

I was reminded, as well, and simply remembered one or the other, if you will.  "Oh!  She had breast cancer, yes!"

 

But then I remembered the term "Betty Ford Clinic", and thought to myself, no way, man...no way did she have both.

 

But she did.  And was honest and forthcoming and so very helpful to the rest of us, about both.  Cancer.  Alcoholism. 

 

Makes one think.  Gerald kinda fell into the Presidendcy, for reasons we are all too well aware of.  But his wife fell into First Lady role too.  And...wow. 

 

What a trial.  But....wow....what a way to handle it all.  She's got my respect, and then some.

 

by LisB 7/10/2011 - 2:22 am

Hi Lis, I just find it refreshing to be able to talk about a good Republican woman in public life.  They're pretty rare these days, sorry to say.  In fact, I don't know if I could name another one right now. 

Sad.

by Ramona 7/10/2011 - 8:39 am (re: LisB)

Another promising young talent whose life was cut short by drugs.  When will we learn?  She was the Kurt Cobain of her generation.

by destor23 7/10/2011 - 7:03 pm

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